Mostly, people who need counselling are the ones who are undergoing problems, difficulties and illness. Such problems keep those persons disturbed and under tension due to which they are unable to concentrate on anything. To overcome these problems they need professional help by experts.
You can get magical results by such a session. For couples who are going through tough times can go for couples counselling, which is the method of advising and guiding through professional techniques. Professionals also exchange ideas, opinions and at the same time use psychological methods using different techniques like collecting case history, taking aptitude tests etc of the individual.
Goals of these sessions:
1. To provide the support to the person psychologically and emotionally.
2. To improve the person’s personal effectiveness.
3. To make the person understand himself as well as the problem.
4. To enhance the person’s problem solving abilities.
5. To guide and advice so that the person will be a good decision maker.
Before a couple chooses to attend a session of couples counselling, they need to make sure that they choose the right counsellor. Let us know have a look at some of the skills a counsellor needs to have.
The relationship between a counsellor and a counsellee is the most influencing factor. Counselling is the relationship between the counsellor and the counsellee who comes for assistance. So, make sure you choose one with whom you and your partner are comfortable. In some cases people find it easier to open up with the strangers. So, it is better that a counsellor is a stranger so that the counsellees do not hesitate to speak about the problems and their worries. So, choose accordingly.
A counsellor should build good rapport and trust with the couple
A counsellor must be patient enough to listen and understand the problems and difficulties of a counsellee. A counsellor should make the counsellee feel comfortable enough to communicate freely without any hesitation.
Time also plays an important role in the counselling session. It should be maintained in or around 1 hour (60 minutes) which is minimum. A counsellor should assure confidentiality of all his sessions and it is the duty of a counsellor to follow this rule strictly. This kind of relationship is mostly one-sided as the counsellor is the only listener.
The tone of voice of the counsellor should be soft enough to please the counsellee. A counsellee should be approached in a very sensitive manner. A counsellor should be a good active listener and should patiently wait for the counsellee to open up further. A counsellor should ask open-ended questions so that the counsellee gets encouraged and give quick response which makes the task much easier.
The above mentioned are just some of those tips which can be kept in mind before choosing a counsellor for you and your partner.